Behaviour support

My daughter currently wanders off and chooses to go a different direction when we go out for play, walk, shopping, etc. It’s either I put her in a buggy or give her my phone so she can walk by guiding her with the safety vest. How can I help her overcome this stage?

Answer:

Thank you for your question! This is a very common question that we get for "Ask a Coach." What I want you to do is practice going for walks, etc. outside of times where you need to. For example, you can go for a walk or go to the store at times that you do not need to buy anything so that you can focus on practicing. If your backyard is fenced in or you can go to a fenced in playground, that would be ideal. I want you to turn it into a game. You will say something like, "Walk nicely with mommy. When mommy says stop, you stop!" Practice at the store, in your backyard, at the park, etc. See how she does. If she is still not stopping when she wanders off and/or walking nicely with you then you can introduce reinforcement to the game. For example, "If you stop when mommy says stop you get X!" Pick something she loves! It can be a special snack like a goldfish or Hershey kiss or a little toy, one minute on your phone, etc. Also, do not forget to praise her anytime she is walking nicely with you and not wandering off ("I love how nicely you are walking with me!"). Good luck!

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  1. Thank you for your question! This is a very common question that we get for “Ask a Coach.” What I want you to do is practice going for walks, etc. outside of times where you need to. For example, you can go for a walk or go to the store at times that you do not need to buy anything so that you can focus on practicing. If your backyard is fenced in or you can go to a fenced in playground, that would be ideal. I want you to turn it into a game. You will say something like, “Walk nicely with mommy. When mommy says stop, you stop!” Practice at the store, in your backyard, at the park, etc. See how she does. If she is still not stopping when she wanders off and/or walking nicely with you then you can introduce reinforcement to the game. For example, “If you stop when mommy says stop you get X!” Pick something she loves! It can be a special snack like a goldfish or Hershey kiss or a little toy, one minute on your phone, etc. Also, do not forget to praise her anytime she is walking nicely with you and not wandering off (“I love how nicely you are walking with me!”). Good luck!

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