What’s your experience with parents sharing custody are there a 50/50 parenting schedules that work better for consistency over others? We’ve tried week on week off and we think it’s too hard on him, he’s regularly missing Mom.
We are considering 2/2/3 with alternating weekends and one parent having the same 3 school days half the year (12 month IEP) and the other parent having the 3 school days the other half summer but im not confident we can get the consistency in each home to support ABA
Answer:
You’re absolutely right to be thinking critically about the schedule and I love how tuned in you are to your child’s emotional needs. 💛
I’ve worked with many families navigating 50/50 custody, and yes it’s possible to make this program work when both homes are on board. In fact, the program itself often becomes the neutral “translator” or mediator, because everything is laid out clearly. You don’t need to agree on everything, but you do need to commit to the plan together for your child’s sake.
That said, coparenting success doesn’t happen by accident, you have to intentionally create a friendly working relationship, even if things are strained. It's not about being best friends, it's about being aligned on what your child needs.
As for schedules: week-on/week-off can be emotionally tough, especially for kids who struggle with transitions or have strong attachment to one caregiver. 2-2-3 is often a better choice in those cases, especially when paired with stable routines and visuals in both homes. I also like that you’re thinking ahead about the school year vs. summer. Consistency doesn’t have to mean identical, it just needs to be predictable.
And last thing don’t count yourselves out on consistency. If both homes are willing to follow one plan, check in regularly, and course correct when needed, I’ve seen incredible progress happen. It’s not about perfection, it’s about commitment.
You’ve got this. And we’re here to guide every step.
xo
Michelle
You’re absolutely right to be thinking critically about the schedule and I love how tuned in you are to your child’s emotional needs. 💛
I’ve worked with many families navigating 50/50 custody, and yes it’s possible to make this program work when both homes are on board. In fact, the program itself often becomes the neutral “translator” or mediator, because everything is laid out clearly. You don’t need to agree on everything, but you do need to commit to the plan together for your child’s sake.
That said, coparenting success doesn’t happen by accident, you have to intentionally create a friendly working relationship, even if things are strained. It’s not about being best friends, it’s about being aligned on what your child needs.
As for schedules: week-on/week-off can be emotionally tough, especially for kids who struggle with transitions or have strong attachment to one caregiver. 2-2-3 is often a better choice in those cases, especially when paired with stable routines and visuals in both homes. I also like that you’re thinking ahead about the school year vs. summer. Consistency doesn’t have to mean identical, it just needs to be predictable.
And last thing don’t count yourselves out on consistency. If both homes are willing to follow one plan, check in regularly, and course correct when needed, I’ve seen incredible progress happen. It’s not about perfection, it’s about commitment.
You’ve got this. And we’re here to guide every step.
xo
Michelle