hello! we started 3 days ago just getting my daughter to sit on the potty happily starting from 45 seconds up to 3 minutes. tomorrow I head back to work for the next 5 days. I will have one day off before she starts back at school. my question is, how do we move forward with school starting where she has always been in a pull up? do I need to wait another 2 weeks when I have 3 days off in a row again before we attempt to train? while I’m at work, my husband is alone with my daughter who is training (6) and my son (3) who is mostly trained and it will be a big task to watch her every minute/take her to the potty every 30 or 60 min without me there to keep my son busy/out of the way. we don’t have anyone who can take my son so that he is occupied. we basically just have this week before she’s back to school and I know the teacher will be compliant with what we ask but I’m having a hard time understanding the best timing to train her. I’m also nervous about how much we can accomplish at home when she will be at school 7-3 and an after school program 3-5 only leaving 6-7am and 5-7pm for us to work with her during each week. we have tried to train before and gave up, there has been a lot of inconsistency for her and I really want to avoid that this time and get this thing done finally. please help!
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EXCELLENT WORK MAMA! We have a few options... We could keep her home for a few days and give it a go with dad. We could do some interval training, which is like ok from the minute you get home from school to bedtime you're in underwear and I'm taking you 3-5 mins on,, 10-15 mins off.. and see how we do. We could maybe use that one day. If it's impossible to get help with your son, then you could switch off with hubby... one takes your son, one does the time with your daughter, or let him be there, but your primary focus is her. Could he go to a play date? Could I hire a babysitter for the day? A mother's helper even? If he wants in on the potty party Great, but you want to keep your attention to her. Lots of ways to do this.. just try and find what feels doable. Tell me what you're thinking.
EXCELLENT WORK MAMA! We have a few options… We could keep her home for a few days and give it a go with dad. We could do some interval training, which is like ok from the minute you get home from school to bedtime you’re in underwear and I’m taking you 3-5 mins on,, 10-15 mins off.. and see how we do. We could maybe use that one day. If it’s impossible to get help with your son, then you could switch off with hubby… one takes your son, one does the time with your daughter, or let him be there, but your primary focus is her. Could he go to a play date? Could I hire a babysitter for the day? A mother’s helper even? If he wants in on the potty party Great, but you want to keep your attention to her. Lots of ways to do this.. just try and find what feels doable. Tell me what you’re thinking.
Ok we’re back and she is home from school until she is trained. She was released from an after school program for not being trained so we have been thrust into starting. Probably a good thing as I would have put it off longer 😭
Last week or two we worked up to 5 min sitting happily. Yesterday we started the intensive program but had 4 accidents and no success. She is withholding and will only go off the potty. This morning when we did 5 min on 10 min off she held it for THREE hours then went in the potty. I gave her the reward (water time with light up bath toys and a bubble gun!!)
My son is at school so we can focus on her and trying to keep her contained in one area/close to potty but once she starts, she holds none in to even get a drop in the potty to give the reinforcement!?
I know it’s mindset and my attitude but it feels like she only wants to go if she’s not sitting on the potty.
I feel lost!!
YES TO GETTING THOSE 5 Mins Happily! YES TO THAT POTTY WIN!!!!! Yes a drop gets a reward, we want her to make the connection, when you do something in the toilet you get something fabulous. Make sure the reward is RIGHT THERE as soon she does it so she can make the connection.
She does only want to go not sitting on the toilet its the habit she was born with, so she will fight to keep it.. we just need to break that habit for the new one….pee and poop go in the toilet and when you do… water awesomeness is waiting for you.
You’re doing fantastic just DONT STOP. Keep at it and come back to me. Make sure you are always in a room next to a bathroom, if she starts peeing in the room, run her to the bathroom and any little bit that goes in the toilet she gets the reward.
YOU GOT THIS>>> GREAT WORK MAMA!