Hi Michelle! We had started to potty train my 5 year old daughter again last week. We have been using potty training panties, and we were taking turns taking her every 30 minutes and having her sit on the potty. She had a lot of accidents wetting her training panties. It was expected of course, but made it through the day, second day she did a little better had only a few wet training panties, then 3rd day back to wet training panties all day. I know you had recommended to take her more frequently, and switch to regular panties. The 4th day, she had begun to get very resistant and starting to have meltdowns when we would tell her lets go potty. Right now, as the week has gone by, my daughter seems to be very resistant and doesn’t want to go to the potty. My mother in law who has been helping with the potty training told us, she wasn’t going to help anymore since our daughter was getting frustrated. My mother in law has also been staying with us visiting from out of state for 2 weeks, and will be going home in another 2 weeks. My daughter has always felt comfortable doing her potty routine with me for awhile except hasn’t gone pee in the potty in a long time. Does this have anything to do with my mother in law staying with us right now? Should I take a break and resume maybe after she leaves? My daughter also has been having bad meltdowns again when she hears her baby brother say “Mama” and he likes to repeat himself. She gets so upset, sometimes its hard to calm her down, and I’m not sure what to do there either. Thank you for your advice!
Answer:
My intuition is with you that it might be better to wait till your mother in law leaves. Grandmas are softies and if they see little resistance from their grandbabies, they don't want to partake and I guess I can see her perspective as she wants to enjoy her granddaughter for her visit. What I would do is go back to just practicing happily sitting. That looks like, sit for 5s till timer goes off, then get a little sit reward. When she asks for anything, say ok, first sit then whatever she asks for. increase the time gradually and we can reset when grandma leaves which hopefully by then we'll be back up to happy sitting for 3-5 mins.
Tomorrow night i am doing a problem behavior training, sounds like she's getting a little jealous or wants your attention, we are going to dive into understanding the function of behaviors like these so we can create the solve so hope you can make it. If not youll have access to the replay. In the meantime, go checkout my Autism Mom's Survival Guide to Problem Behaviors here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cfocmasterclass/permalink/861745561675332
if you have trouble accessing it, email info@michellebrogers.com and Gen will get you a copy. Let me know if this is helpful.
My intuition is with you that it might be better to wait till your mother in law leaves. Grandmas are softies and if they see little resistance from their grandbabies, they don’t want to partake and I guess I can see her perspective as she wants to enjoy her granddaughter for her visit. What I would do is go back to just practicing happily sitting. That looks like, sit for 5s till timer goes off, then get a little sit reward. When she asks for anything, say ok, first sit then whatever she asks for. increase the time gradually and we can reset when grandma leaves which hopefully by then we’ll be back up to happy sitting for 3-5 mins.
Tomorrow night i am doing a problem behavior training, sounds like she’s getting a little jealous or wants your attention, we are going to dive into understanding the function of behaviors like these so we can create the solve so hope you can make it. If not youll have access to the replay. In the meantime, go checkout my Autism Mom’s Survival Guide to Problem Behaviors here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cfocmasterclass/permalink/861745561675332
if you have trouble accessing it, email info@michellebrogers.com and Gen will get you a copy. Let me know if this is helpful.