Ep32 - A Potty Training Journey of 6 Year Old TWINS!

Ep32 – A Potty Training Journey of 6 Year Old TWINS!

From This Episode:

Meet Angelina.

She has 6 yr old Autistic TWINS and other neurotypical children.

Her plate is full and she wanted potty training to be one thing she stopped feeling DEFEATED by with past efforts and failures.

Can you relate?

I love Angelina’s testimonial because it’s REAL and she’s still in it!

She has a fully potty trained child when it comes to pee.

She has another twin who had terrible potty phobia but has since blasted through those fears and is now learning from their sibling to start the potty process.

No doubt she will get both of them fully potty trained and she knows it, too.

Do you have a child (or twins) who you want fully potty trained?

We tackle this in my Champions For Our Children Coaching Program where I have a 100% success rate.

Book a call HERE to learn what’s possible for you and your baby, too!

Talk soon,

Xoxo

Michelle

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But really it was the interaction with other moms and hearing Michelle's story and just instantly being immersed in around other people that just get what I'm going through without having to explain it.
    
Welcome to the autism mommy's potty talk Podcast. I'm a Shelby Rogers, autism mom and life coach. I help parents of children with autism who are pre verbal to start communicating a potty train guarantee.

You're listening to the autism moms potty talk Podcast, episode 32.

Hi, everybody, this is Michelle, from champions for our children. If you don't know me, I am a life coach and autism mom, just like you guys. I have a daughter that was diagnosed on the spectrum in December of 2014.

And I remember when she was diagnosed, she was nonverbal. She wasn't potty trained, I had no idea what the future would hold for her.

And I remember thinking, you know, I just wish I had somebody I could call to kind of tell me what to do now now that I have a diagnosis, what do I need to do, and never had that.

And I took a lot of face first hits. And I said, you know, I'm a God fearing woman. I said, you know, God's really helped me out here, I promise I'm going to do everything I can to pay it forward and help as many other people that are struggling with this because there was legitimately no help.

And that's kind of where we are today, Juliana went from nonverbal, she learned to be potty trained with sign language is a sign for potty. She learns. She started making sounds, sign language one word utterances to kind of where she is today, was announced on Friday at her IEP meeting, and she's gonna be going into a general education classroom next year for fourth grade. So through the moment, I had no idea that was the potential outcome for us.

So that's why I'm just so you know, blessed to do this work. And just to share like this potential future outcome is possible for all our babies.

And it's all about always talk about the we always talk about this in the program, we're going to talk about it here with Angelina about how 95% of the work is in here. And 5% is the actual tactical, so I'm here with Angelina, and as a mom and life coach, for other autism parents, one of the one of the number one problem that every parent comes to me with a child with spectrum is potty training.

So we have actually become potty whispers. In our group coaching program, we have not had one parent leave or one family leave without a child potty trained. So we have 100% success rate there.

I'm very proud of that. So if you're working on me, if you're in that program, you work on PI train with me, you leave with a potty trained child. So what I did was I created a three day, potty power intensive, and Angelina was a part of that I held nothing back everything I do in my 90 Day group coaching program is exactly what I do in this three day intensive and Angelina is here to tell us all about her experience.

So thank you for coming in Salina and chatting with me today. Yes, yes,
yes, you're welcome.

Thank you. Um, yeah, I, I have to, I have twins, six year old twins that are like I was telling Michelle in the initial program there, I don't have a formal diagnosis for them yet.

It's a little different for us our journey, because we're homeschool. So the we didn't start the process. As soon we weren't looking at the same benchmark.

So some of the things were they may have been, quote unquote, behind, we're not as visible because of the structures we had in place. So kind of been fumbling my way through the process, once the pediatrician recommended testing, and so everything is kind of unraveling all at once. So we don't have a formal diagnosis.

But at this point, with the evaluation they have had, it's just confirming what we already know and finding more specifics about what's specifically going on with them.

But in any case, potty training seemed to be impossible. I have two older kids not on the spectrum, never had a problem with potty training, homeschooling all of the stuff that I do. And then with these guys, everything is just like a little curve.

Because nothing none of the traditional things work the same like I, I couldn't find a way to really just focus in on getting the potty training done. So we would start and then we would have a good day, a bad day, back and forth and then one would potty train and then one would start resist and one progression.

I would just like throw in the towel, like over and over and over again.

So when I came to this program, well first I think a couple months ago I ordered the guide. And because I was like Well, I'll just read the guide.

And that'll be enough. But really, it was the interaction with other moms and hearing Michelle's story and just instantly being immersed in around other people that just get what I'm going through without having to explain it.

Because outside the autism community, it's like, I don't want to be like, what you don't get it, it's harder for me because it's harder for me because, and I found myself saying that I'm like, Oh, I'm just making a bunch of excuses.

Like, I can't potty train them, you know, and then I was just being really hard on myself about it. So when I came into the potty power class, it was just really reassuring to hear that the issues I was having, which I had no idea were so common, the potty phobia that Michelle talked about, and then pee being a little bit different than poop. And just like the really, no pun intended, like the hands on issues that nobody else was really talking about.

So that was the most helpful for me and me to suggest him to just focus on one twin at a time was like, invaluable. And I'm thinking like, Why didn't Why didn't that dawned on me, I'm trying to swim around and thinking, they have to go get high train.

But we did the three day intensive, like you suggested, and is potty trained. 100%, no accidents for pee. And he's just picked up.

And we're still working a little bit with him on poop. But it's doesn't seem like this big impossible thing anymore, it seems very realistic that he's going to be potty trained.

So I want I think this is a really great testimonial. It's very different than a lot of the other ones I've done because it was a start to finish. Yeah, we're completely potty trained. This is a mom that's still on the journey.

And before we started our interview here, one of the things we did say to her she was very honest and saying, in the program, one of the things I talked about specifically is when we're running, when we're dealing with potty training a child, we have to look at the whole process of potty training and see what which parts of it where is where they need support. So she had mentioned potty phobia, like, Oh, I didn't realize, you know, maybe I need to address this first, before we even consider the actual three day intensive of the potty training. Then she met.

So we call that on what's its own little program. So basically, we have the child sit, we have them sit up to five minutes, just enough to for them to poop. And then we master that then once that's master where they can sit neutrally with no behaviors, no issues, then we can go on to the next step of the potty training, which is actually like the three day intensive that she started with. But it is also very nice to talk to our mom Angelus positions because she's got p on lock p is not the issue. Now she's got a look at the data, which is everything we talked about in the potty program, we look at all the data and we say okay, we've mastered potty phobia, we've mastered pee.

So now we need to almost run a whole new program for poop. And she was very honest and saying you know, we've got a lot of stuff going on. And I haven't been able to give this the attention that it needs.

So and because of that the results with poop have been inconsistent. So once she can focus and and have the time to do this, we don't want to ever try and potty train when we're in the middle of a move when we're when we're getting a divorce when we're changing jobs, we want to make sure that everything at the house is pretty calm now no new baby coming home.

So we want to make sure that when we pi train, we have the ability to focus on getting those results. And if we are a family of we have triplets in the programs, we have twins in the program, I always encourage let's work on one child at a time.

Sometimes we get lucky and the other child or the or the siblings will see the fun and then they want in on it but if that's they don't The idea here is to keep your focus on the one child get that unlock and then you can attack the other one.

And
if I may address that just real quick if it did happen that way because I read the other one who's not I haven't started even trying it really bad potty phobia wouldn't even like walk into the bathroom and now through this whole process. In the beginning he was taking his diapers and giving them to me I was like no you're not like I want you to not be potty trained. But through the process now he's actually I got him to sit on the toilet for two minutes straight. And so now I feel like it's kind of helping me like get him ready for
his process along Exactly.

So while she's finishing up her first son, she can start the process with her neck so it's it's really a great conversation.

I'm not I don't like believe in giving a bullshit testimonial like you don't really get results. I don't want a testimonial. And I like that she that this is so real issues real in her process. She took this program she got p on lock for a first one.

She's starting to get aSquatty Potty phobia for her second. She's got a big undertaking. She's doing this times two. So I think you're doing an amazing job. This is exactly how it's supposed to look. It could look like I do three days of potty you know you've seen other testimonials for me. You can see mom say we did it three days. When we were done, you get or you could have this and there is no wrong path. It's all kind of based on upon our children based on what's going on in our lives. There is no wrong path. If it meant that I had to take a couple of, you know, bumps in the road. But at the end of the day, she has to potty train child, it doesn't matter how she gets there, as long as she gets there, and she does not quit. Right?

Exactly.

And 30 days ago, I would have said, it's impossible. They're going to be in diapers until they're
like, and they were six. And how many times did you try to pi train them? I
can't even count like, never.

Yeah, so it's like, it's almost I had to take a little pressure off myself because of the things the other things are going on. And just but just the knowledge, that's doable, it's happening. You know, that's just like, celebrating
the wins body phobia, extinguished celebrate the wins, a P one lock, celebrate the wins. This is the path, I believe in celebrating everything because it's just like, it gives that good energy of like momentum is happening in
does at the park like, Oh, we're using the potty at the park.

Now. We don't have to go to the car and change like everything. So we have. Awesome.

So would you recommend this program to other families that are struggling to potty train their
babies? Absolutely. I have already to a couple of people.

So for me, it's just just the support that you're offering. And the just validation that you know, yes, we will. As moms, we worked without validation a lot.

So I think it's nice to have that this is hard. And as a mom, especially a mom with older kids, I really was sitting in a wall with despite a trading game, like just not feeling like what the answer was, it was really like a godsend for me, I would definitely.

I was like a potty training, not when I did my own kids, but like, that way for me either. And that's okay. As long as again, I was never like, oh, I guess my dream is not in the cards for them.

And I just thought, right,
exactly, exactly. And it's kind of like it's I don't understand enough about autism yet. I think to know what is even a possibility and just no one can give you a clear answer. Because like you said, the path is the same for anybody when there's similarities.

I want you to think to like with this, once you've mastered this, obviously, it's going to open your eyes to what they're capable of, if they can do this, you know, you can start to think about other things that they may be able to do that they're struggling with right now. And how you can apply the same process to other goals, like right creation, you know, reducing tantrum, behavior, all that kind of stuff.

Yeah, I think it's just really it was a big eye opener, I want them to slow down enough to do this, I have to slow down. Like I have to slow down and really like pay attention to the I should have said in the when you were recording, that just the monitoring for the couple of days of, you know, taking the data for when they're going and that was helpful, because I realize I'm not even really aware. Like how often Yeah,
and a lot and it's between, it's taking the data, right? So you don't even think your kids have I'll talk to him on that. Oh, they don't think of so whenever they go whenever No, now they go sometimes. I've never noticed. Yeah, it just feels like they're wet all the time, because you're changing diapers. But like if you start to notice the patterns, and it's like, Oh, that's interesting. Hold it for a long time. Or oh, maybe we don't need to go every time as me we know, every 30 minutes, whatever the case may be. But another thing, too, is just the beliefs you have around pai chain. Like you had said at one point, you felt like you were destined to be a divers forever. And if you're in that state, like why would you ever really try to you know, you I
was planning for a different future. You know, I was planning for like, diversity word of my life for a long time. And now it's like, oh, no, doesn't have to
be so that's right. You have to buy another paper again. Yeah, yeah.
And I keep telling him, look how bad this is for the environment.
Whatever you got to say, you know, I there's definitely
no, totally so I appreciate it. Thank you very much.
Thank you so much, Angelina, I appreciate your time. You're welcome. Thank you, Charles. If you're ready to help your baby now with potty training, communication or stopping their problem behaviors, I want to invite you to watch my free 10 minute video training that shows you how I took my daughter with autism from pre verbal to sign language potty training with a sign to making sounds and then speaking, head over to Michelle B rogers.com. Forward slash training.

That's Michelle M i c h e l l e. B as in boy, Rogers, r o g e r s.com forward slash training. See you there

Michelle B. Rogers
Autism Mom, Life Coach