So Joshua is peeing at the toilet seat. We instruct him to pee in the bowl but he hits the seat then as the stream dies down it flows in the bowl.
Since we have to stay away from him now, we can’t hold his wee wee down. We instruct him but he’s not listening.
What can we do so he aims for the bowl?
Thanks,
Tiffanie
Answer:
WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF BOYS IN THE BATHROOM! 🙂 This is still struggle for my 11 year old sometimes LAZY neurotypical son. Clorox wipes will become your friend moving forward and they need to come up with a decorative cover for them so its matches our bathroom decor 🙂 All jokes aside.
If he's not already holding his peanut down when he goes..then he's not ready to be left alone yet, AND in order to earn the potty reward he needs to do all steps now CORRECTLY, which means lifting the seat and holding the peanut down.
So back it up to this step you WILL have to be in the bathroom with him and make it clear to him, if you don't lift the seat no reward. If you don't aim for the bowl and at least at first get some in the toilet ,no reward.
A cool trick that made cody want to do this is I would put Cheerios in the toilet and he would aim for them.
Now I want you to think about self coaching when potty hiccups like this happen.
Circumstance: Joshua is peeing on the seat
Thought: What is the THOUGHT you're thinking when he pees on the seat, lets use: How can I solve this problem if I want to make him less prompt dependent or in need of me in the bathroom ANSWER YOUR OWN QUESTION.. Survival brains LOVE to drop what feel like questions with no answers so you stop problem solving
Feeling: Indecisive, not sure what to do
Action: Use Ask a Coach GREAT but what if you didn't have it.. what would you have done?
Result: Joshua is peeing in the bowl vs on the seat
The idea here is to start to get into the habit of coming up with the solution first and then posting what you come up with. Hope this is helpful.
WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF BOYS IN THE BATHROOM! 🙂 This is still struggle for my 11 year old sometimes LAZY neurotypical son. Clorox wipes will become your friend moving forward and they need to come up with a decorative cover for them so its matches our bathroom decor 🙂 All jokes aside.
If he’s not already holding his peanut down when he goes..then he’s not ready to be left alone yet, AND in order to earn the potty reward he needs to do all steps now CORRECTLY, which means lifting the seat and holding the peanut down.
So back it up to this step you WILL have to be in the bathroom with him and make it clear to him, if you don’t lift the seat no reward. If you don’t aim for the bowl and at least at first get some in the toilet ,no reward.
A cool trick that made cody want to do this is I would put Cheerios in the toilet and he would aim for them.
Now I want you to think about self coaching when potty hiccups like this happen.
Circumstance: Joshua is peeing on the seat
Thought: What is the THOUGHT you’re thinking when he pees on the seat, lets use: How can I solve this problem if I want to make him less prompt dependent or in need of me in the bathroom ANSWER YOUR OWN QUESTION.. Survival brains LOVE to drop what feel like questions with no answers so you stop problem solving
Feeling: Indecisive, not sure what to do
Action: Use Ask a Coach GREAT but what if you didn’t have it.. what would you have done?
Result: Joshua is peeing in the bowl vs on the seat
The idea here is to start to get into the habit of coming up with the solution first and then posting what you come up with. Hope this is helpful.