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Just this weekend I was in tears talking with my husband. I was explaining to him how I feel so responsible for the results the families get when they work with me in my program. Most days lately, I don’t sleep through the night. I just wake up and my brain is going. Thinking about new ideas to help children (and adults) with Autism to learn the life skills they need to live better lives. I believe that God gives every one of us a special gift and it’s our job to uncover it and share it with the world. I truly believe being a mother to my cubs and coaching parents of children with Autism is mine. I’ve spent the last many years committed to getting better and better at this mission. One of the things that has made me so successful in helping so many is I take radical responsibility for the results I get for myself, my child, and in my program. When parents see that, some follow me down that path. They too learn to take radical responsibility and they keep at shit till they get to goal for their children. But…. Many struggle with what it means to do hard things. They stumble and at the sight of a few LEARNS on the way to goal, and think “it’s not working”, and/or quit along the way. These are the parents that keep me up at night. I ask myself in the darkness of my bedroom… ”What am I missing….?” ”How can I land the message that it has to be you?” You are your baby’s best shot at a quality life.” Then it occurred to me…. Because I take radical responsibility for the results I have in my own life and in raising my daughter with Autism… I am also taking radical responsibility for the lack of results these parents see. This is especially problematic when I am showing up more than they are. Because it’s not my baby. It’s yours. I put myself in your shoes and sure after a month of poop training and your kid is still shitting their pants, I’d be frustrated too. But it doesn’t mean it can’t happen in my mind. I’ll never stop till that baby IS fully potty trained. That’s what it means to be radically responsible. As I evolve as a coach I need to come to a place of acceptance that …. Some parents want the results I am so good at getting…. But some don’t want to commit to doing whatever it takes to get it, to be radically responsible for it themselves NO MATTER WHAT. Because that’s what it takes. That is what separates those of you who teach the life skills your child needs to live an independent life and those of you that don’t. And no matter how BAD I want it for you…. How many nights I’ve laid awake trying to figure out how to help you get what you want for your child… I can’t want it for you. AND…. I can’t want it MORE than you. That’s the heavy lifting YOU need to commit to. Tonight I think I’m going to sleep better than I have in a while. I know as someone who takes radical responsibility for my life that I can look myself in the mirror and know that before my head hits the pillow, I gave it everything I have today. First for my daughter, my family and all the families in my program. Can you do the same? xo Michelle P.S. You can’t just want an independent life for your child with Autism with “the conditions” that the path be easy. Easy is bullshit, it’s doing something with no effort. The work we do together is simple meaning the steps will be clear to follow but it will require you to be COMMITTED and CONSISTENT. If you’re ready to be radically responsible for your own results, then let’s hop on a complimentary consultation and see if it makes sense to work together. |
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