One of the #1 skills I help parents of children with Autism master is Potty Training their kids. I’ve hosted TONS of Webinars and over the last year I started asking this question: I get tons of answers but one always pops up more than others…. “I haven’t been consistent” So I then ask, “If you believe consistency is the only reason why potty training your child with Autism then what has stopped you from being consistent?” I’ll hear things like: “We both work full time.” “I’m a single parent” “School won’t help” Between work, school, and everything else on your plate, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling short when it comes to potty training. But let me ask you this… If I gave you a guaranteed GOLDEN potty training manual that 100% promised success in two weeks if you followed it, and while implementing it you still were a single parent, and/or worked full time, and had no support from the school, that even with your busy schedule, would you find a way to follow it? You probably would. But something I’ve learned from working with so many parents in your shoes is that many parents misunderstand what exactly consistency is. Consistency isn’t perfection. Consistency isn’t about waiting for the perfect moment or life to calm down—it’s about believing in the outcome and showing up, even when things aren’t perfect. We often think that to be consistent, everything needs to be in place. We tell ourselves… “Once things settle down, then I’ll be able to focus,” or “If I just had a bit more time, I could really do this.” But what if I told you that consistency doesn’t have to look like perfection? In fact, it rarely does. Consistency is messy. Consistency is the willingness to keep going, even when you’ve had a tough day or when things don’t go as planned. Consistency is ALSO about knowing that it’s okay to take a break if you need it—as long as you come back to the goal. Think about it this way: If you do a two-day potty training intensive and then find yourself needing a mental health moment or you need to cook dinner and can’t focus on watching so you have to put the pull up back on, that doesn’t mean you’ve messed it up and everything you’ve done till that point has gone to shit. Consistency isn’t about never pausing; it’s about not giving up. The real power of consistency lies in your belief. When you believe that potty training is possible, that belief fuels your actions. It pushes you through the tough days, the setbacks, and the doubts. Waiting for the perfect set of circumstances to feel ready or motivated is what holds so many parents back. But the truth is, you don’t need a perfect life to be consistent. You just need to believe in the result and keep moving toward it, one imperfect step at a time.
Xo Michelle P.S. If you’re ready to take the next step in potty training, communication, or stopping problem behaviors, I’d love to support you. I’m offering a complimentary consultation call to discuss your child’s unique needs, tell you about my program and see if it makes sense to work together. You’ve got this, and I’m here to help you every step of the way. CLICK HERE to BOOK A CALL to learn more about my Group Coaching Program, the Champions for Our Children Masterclass. |
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One of the #1 skills I help parents of children with Autism master is Potty Training their kids. I’ve hosted TONS of Webinars and
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