My nearly 6 year old daughter is in a 15/1/3 sped class for TK through 1 grade. She herself is in Kindergarten and has been attending school since PreK. She has always had behavioral problems in the classroom, but now she’s discovered a behavior that will absolutely get her sent home and that is to 1) strip off all her clothes 2) pee in the classroom 3) cover herself in toilet water once they’ve managed to chase her into the bathroom away from the other kids in order to get dressed. She is nearly 6 years old and verbal. She has been completely dressed and potty trained since she was 3 years old. She isn’t struggling academically, except that she doesn’t like writing. Near as we can tell this is strictly attention seeking behavior as she’s usually laughing about it during and afterwards. She doesn’t do this anywhere else, in fact pretty much everywhere else on the planet I have a hard time convinsing anyone of the
Answer:
I am sorry you are going through this. This is super traumatic to be on the receiving end of this news and it can totally triggering and give you all the feels. As hard as this is, I need to put some space between this latest incident and the decision making around this. I would also make sure you go for a walk.. talk to a friend, get some tears out, give yourself a minute to calm down.
Next I would schedule an emergency IEP meeting and discuss the issues with all involved. I would send everything in writing with an agenda in mind. My thought on this from the drone view is if you pull her, you've reinforced the behavior. I know she's being sent home for now but the name of the game here is to stop reinforcing the behavior if we want it to stop.
Agenda:
1. Request a BIP (Behavioral Intervention Plan) created by a behaviorist
2. What is the game plan to provide her the education she's entitled to while addressing these behaviors at the same time
3. What type of outside intervention would be permitted.
4. Can we get videos of the behaviors and how it's being addressed by the class instruction team?
My thought is she qualifies for 1:1 and we need to get their person trained up to block these behaviors from happening, but lets take a breath... Read this, reflect and come back to me with what you're thinking. Feel free to join tonight's masterclass call and we can dialoge there if you can make it. 6pm EST Tonight - https://us06web.zoom.us/j/6787190649
Sending love mama. I know what this feels like. Lets take a beat and come together to figure out next steps.
xo Michelle
I am sorry you are going through this. This is super traumatic to be on the receiving end of this news and it can totally triggering and give you all the feels. As hard as this is, I need to put some space between this latest incident and the decision making around this. I would also make sure you go for a walk.. talk to a friend, get some tears out, give yourself a minute to calm down.
Next I would schedule an emergency IEP meeting and discuss the issues with all involved. I would send everything in writing with an agenda in mind. My thought on this from the drone view is if you pull her, you’ve reinforced the behavior. I know she’s being sent home for now but the name of the game here is to stop reinforcing the behavior if we want it to stop.
Agenda:
1. Request a BIP (Behavioral Intervention Plan) created by a behaviorist
2. What is the game plan to provide her the education she’s entitled to while addressing these behaviors at the same time
3. What type of outside intervention would be permitted.
4. Can we get videos of the behaviors and how it’s being addressed by the class instruction team?
My thought is she qualifies for 1:1 and we need to get their person trained up to block these behaviors from happening, but lets take a breath… Read this, reflect and come back to me with what you’re thinking. Feel free to join tonight’s masterclass call and we can dialoge there if you can make it. 6pm EST Tonight – https://us06web.zoom.us/j/6787190649
Sending love mama. I know what this feels like. Lets take a beat and come together to figure out next steps.
xo Michelle
Thanks for answering. I wasn’t even able to finish the question before kids made me accidently hit the send button and I couldn’t figure out how to get it back so sorry for that.
They are asking me to have her annual meeting on November 4th to discuss the results of the analysis for 1:1, but I don’t feel comfortable waiting that long.
I dont either. I would have that meeting ASAP.