The Consequences of Indecision

I remember when Julianna started to change. It was shortly after her 1st birthday where I started to notice a shift in her mood.

She went from a happy engaged baby who said her first word, “MAP” (She loved Dora the Explorer) at 9 months to what seemed to me as a child at 13 months old walking around with a dark cloud over her head.

I even recall during one of her countless unexplainable tantrums commenting to my mom “Where did my happy baby go?”

As the weeks turned into months, her behavior got worse. There were “things” happening right before my eyes.

She started drooling so much I would change her shirt many times a day and even had to double bib her.

Instead of playing with her toys she’d just dump them onto the floor and start twisting each one in her hands one by one.

She would get fixated on tapping knobs on our cabinets and dressers.

She stopped looking at me, or looking for me.

But through it all, I turned a blind eye because I wasn’t ready to face my fears that something might be wrong.

I rode the fence and started down a path of indecision as to what to do about it.

Part of me wanted to believe she was developing in her own time and I wanted to see how that played out.

And at the same time part of me was terrified to consider something wasn’t quite right and if so, what do I do about it if that was the case.

I wasted months here and the action I took was… NOTHING.

This is the consequence of INDECISION.

There is this saying that …

“More is lost by indecision than wrong decisions. Indecision is the thief of opportunity. It will steal you blind.”

Not only did it rob me of precious time I could have taken action on the obvious signs of Autism but..

When you lose time living in indecision, when you can be living a life with a clear direction, that’s when you’re not of service to yourself or your child.

You have to be willing to make the BIG D DECISION that making shit happen with a potential outcome of failure and/or being wrong is more worthwhile than living in indecision which only brings you mental and emotional anguish.

If I had continued to sit in the indecision of what to do, I TAKE ZERO ACTON, nothing would change and waste my energy thinking in loops..

“Maybe She is?”

“Yes something’s wrong”

“NO she’s fine”

“I don’t’ know”

“What should I do?”

When you decide not to decide anything, you are using EVEN MORE ENERGY, Creating EVEN MORE PAIN for you and your child.

AND neither of you moves forward.

In the end, the decision to seek help and embrace the reality of Julianna’s Autism opened a new chapter for us.

It was filled with challenges, yes, but also with tremendous growth and learning.

If you are riding the waves of uncertainty about your child’s development and what to do, the best step you can take is the next one forward.

Choosing to MOVE, even when faced with the unknown, is always better than doing nothing at all.

Xo Michelle

P.S. Nothing is more POWERFUL than making a DECISION! If you struggle with what to do, or where to turn, THIS IS WHAT I DO.

I teach parents how to get their kids with Autism Potty Trained, Communicating, and Stopping their Problem Behaviors. If you’re ready to HOP OFF THE FENCE BOOK A CALL to learn more about working with me. 


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Michelle B. Rogers is an Autism Mom & Life Coach for Parents of Children with Autism. She is an expert in helping parents Potty Train and Improve the Communication Skills of their children, with a "straight forward" results-driven approach. Her mission is helping every child with Autism to reach their greatest potential by empowering their parents. She provides Autism Parents with the mental, emotional and tactical tools and strategies to help their child live as independent of a life as possible so they too get their independence back.

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