I remember not too long ago the empty shelves at the Supermarkets and warehouse stores during Covid.
How people were fighting over the toilet paper and stock piling it like it was no one’s business.
And it got me thinking
What if you ran to the store and walked down the diaper aisle and they were all gone?
You checked online, in all the neighboring towns, and there was none to be found.
What would you do?
Your brain might get creative.It might find other things you could use as diapers.You might put down puppy pads and confine movement of your child to one room.
Maybe you’d follow after your child trying to catch the pee or poop in a bag.
Or…
You might just see this as your cue that you HAVE TO potty train.
When we think about potty training our children with Autism, you get so afraid of the “act of failing” and the discomfort feeling it will bring, you start filling your head with shitty thoughts to avoid ever attempting it fully.
Things like…
You believe it will be hard.You think your child can’t comprehend.You believe that if your child can’t talk they can’t potty train.
When you believe this shit, you’ve failed before you’ve even begun.No unpleasant failing feelings to be had here.But failing at Potty Training is always just a thought.
It only is available to believe when you are thinking about QUITTING, when quitting is an available option.
If the diapers were gone, what would you do?
You see, “failing” isn’t something you can do. It’s just something you think.
As long as you always have the option to fail you will keep quitting.
or…
You can choose to think that failing is not something that is possible here.
What would you do if you couldn’t quit Potty Training?
When you MAKE THE DECISION to never quit, you make your success inevitable.
If you make the decision to take quitting off the table and…
Commit to the potty process.
Evaluate your data…
Tweak, Test, and Implement…
Rinse and repeat till you get where you want to go….
Then ANYTHING you want to teach your baby is as good as DONE including getting them potty trained, communicating or stopping their problem behaviors.
Because the only true failure of an Autism Parent is quitting.
Commit to not quitting as if it’s the equivalent to walking down a baby aisle with no diapers and you got no other OPTIONS.
IT WILL CHANGE EVERYTHING.
xo Michelle
P.S. In case you didn’t know it….
Potty Training is my jam! If you’re feeling like a failure and don’t know what to do next, BOOK A CALL to learn more about my group coaching program to see if you’re a good fit.
P.P.S – Shout out to Katelyn, who joined 3 months ago, and when her daughter ended school she was in diapers full time.
Now she’s blowing her teacher’s minds as this little potty trained diva!
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