Hello,
My daughter is going to potty to do pee pretty willingly. She gets motivated by getting g m&ms after she does pee on potty. But š© is a problem every time Iām catching her about to do it and moving her on potty – she is holding it and not going ā¦ she hold it for 3 days and she found that 1 min when I was not walking around her and she hide in closet and went poop in diaper. Then she came to me and announced it loud ))) reinforcer for poo isnāt working looks like – it is game on iPad – she doesnāt have access to it unless she does poop on potty but because itās not happening she is kind of switched off on it ā¦ we give her just on weekend to play on iPad but not that game – do I have to fully remove iPad ? And what would be your advice to help her go to poop ? I see she is scared of it when itās coming out her and she is freaking out to flash it right away ā¦ thanks
Answer:
First off, excellent job on pee training! She's on her way, and we just need to stay the course! If you havenāt already, go listen to my podcast episode called āAll About Poopāāitās packed with helpful tips.
Letās Talk Constipation
Constipation is normal during potty training, so donāt panic. What I would do is give her foods that make holding it in harderāthink prunes, fiber, Georgeās Aloe Vera Juice, or Calm Magnesium. (Always check with your doctor first!) Keeping her stool soft will help make this process much smoother for her.
No More Hiding in Closets
If you know sheās due based on her cues or schedule, donāt let her sneak away to poop in a closet. Youāve got to keep her in sight during those critical moments. And letās go all in on potty trainingāno dipping our toes in here! That means NO DIAPERS OR PULL-UPS, except for nighttime or naps, and even then, take them off immediately when she wakes up and put her on the potty.
Adjust the iPad Reward
Youāre absolutely rightāthe iPad isnāt motivating enough for pooping. Letās switch up how she gets access:
5 minutes for peeing
30 minutes for pooping
And hereās the key: She doesnāt get the iPad at any other time. That exclusivity makes it much more valuable.
Catching Her at the Right Moment
If you see her starting to poop and rush her to the toilet but she holds it, no big deal. Give her a few minutes on the potty (no more than 5), then take her off and keep a close eye because sheāll likely try again soon.
Hereās the trick: The next time you see the cue, wait a few extra seconds. Thereās a point of no return when pooping startsāonce itās happening, she canāt stop it (gross, I know, but true). Thatās when you move her to the potty and let her finish there.
Address the Anxiety
If sheās nervous or upset about pooping, figure out where the anxiety is coming from:
Is it the splash of the water on her butt?
Is it that she didnāt get to do it her way?
Or is it just that the process is new and she needs practice?
Reassure her: āItās okay, youāre doing great!ā Remind her that the iPad is waiting as soon as sheās done.
I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questionsāIām here for you. š
First off, excellent job on pee training! She’s on her way, and we just need to stay the course! If you havenāt already, go listen to my podcast episode called āAll About Poopāāitās packed with helpful tips.
Letās Talk Constipation
Constipation is normal during potty training, so donāt panic. What I would do is give her foods that make holding it in harderāthink prunes, fiber, Georgeās Aloe Vera Juice, or Calm Magnesium. (Always check with your doctor first!) Keeping her stool soft will help make this process much smoother for her.
No More Hiding in Closets
If you know sheās due based on her cues or schedule, donāt let her sneak away to poop in a closet. Youāve got to keep her in sight during those critical moments. And letās go all in on potty trainingāno dipping our toes in here! That means NO DIAPERS OR PULL-UPS, except for nighttime or naps, and even then, take them off immediately when she wakes up and put her on the potty.
Adjust the iPad Reward
Youāre absolutely rightāthe iPad isnāt motivating enough for pooping. Letās switch up how she gets access:
5 minutes for peeing
30 minutes for pooping
And hereās the key: She doesnāt get the iPad at any other time. That exclusivity makes it much more valuable.
Catching Her at the Right Moment
If you see her starting to poop and rush her to the toilet but she holds it, no big deal. Give her a few minutes on the potty (no more than 5), then take her off and keep a close eye because sheāll likely try again soon.
Hereās the trick: The next time you see the cue, wait a few extra seconds. Thereās a point of no return when pooping startsāonce itās happening, she canāt stop it (gross, I know, but true). Thatās when you move her to the potty and let her finish there.
Address the Anxiety
If sheās nervous or upset about pooping, figure out where the anxiety is coming from:
Is it the splash of the water on her butt?
Is it that she didnāt get to do it her way?
Or is it just that the process is new and she needs practice?
Reassure her: āItās okay, youāre doing great!ā Remind her that the iPad is waiting as soon as sheās done.
I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questionsāIām here for you. š