What Separates Me From Other Autism Parents

Do you know what separates me not just from other Autism Parents but from most people in general?

My threshold for emotional and mental pain is ridiculously high.

This ability to take face-first hits over and over again was key in helping my daughter go from Non-Verbal to Sign Language to Potty Training with a Sign, to making sounds, one-word utterances, vocal scripting to a full-on chatty happy 10-year-old in a General Education class with minimal supports.

As a parent of a child with Special Needs, you have 2 important jobs…

#1 You need to learn for yourself how to teach this baby!

If you think you need to be a doctor, therapist, special education teacher, or a special school/classroom to make a difference, you couldn’t be more wrong.

You are more VALUABLE than ANY OF THEM. No one knows your baby better than you.

IN FACT, IT HAS TO BE YOU.

IT NEEDS TO BECOME APART OF HOW YOU PARENT (This is what my program is about by the way!)

#2 You’re going to have to be able to withstand setbacks, hiccups, and regression, you have to build up your pain tolerance.

Doing this work is where the skill of taking blow after blow, enduring constant pain comes in.

My ability to withstand ….

Doors slammed in my face.

Then getting told “NO” over and over.

And getting humiliated, embarrassed, feeling taken advantage of, the worst type of shit any human being can endure… I’ve taken it all, MANY TIMES.

My ability to take a beating and keep asking for more till I get the results I wanted for my daughter is WHO I wanted to be then and WHO I AM NOW!

Also here is the kicker… even to this day, it doesn’t hurt any less when I get let down, things don’t go my way, or we have setbacks.

I’m just used to taking the beating.

Because I’ve tried and failed so much….

I understand now that those failures are not failures but LEARNS…

I have the WILLINGNESS to feel all the shit AND I know how to get past it every time.

So how do you create the identity of a warrior mom who can take the hits and keep on coming?

Imagine who you’d be when your child had these skills and you believed you were the sole reason these results exist for your child.

What would that Mother, Father, or Caretaker look like?

How would they hold themselves?

What would they show up to IEP Meetings, Doctors/Therapist Appointments?

They teach their children important life skills like potty training, communication, or stopping problem behaviors?

Would this Mother, Father, or Caretaker say about who they saw in the mirror today?

What advice would they give you?

Envision your life as if the results you want are already done.

When you can get yourself to show up as that boss mom NOW, the results you desire for your baby will ALWAYS follow.

xoxo

Michelle

P.S. Looking to help your baby NOW but don’t know where to start? Reach out to us at info@michellebrogers.com to learn more about my Champions for Our Children Masterclass, which will teach you the foundational steps to helping your baby get potty trained, communicating, and stopping those problem behaviors fast.