Why “I’ll believe it when I see it” is the kiss of death for your kid
I speak to parents almost daily about wanting to help their children get THE BIG 3. (Potty Training, Communicating, and Stopping Problem Behaviors)
I hear how they’ve tried lots of things and nothing has worked.
We talk about the 100% success rate I have for potty training and communication.
We talk about how I guarantee results in my program.
And then I’ll ask them on a scale of 1 to 10 how confident they feel about the Masterclass, working together, and making this done for them.
They’ll usually shoot between a 7-9.
The reason they’ll give it this number is because they’ll say….
“I’ll believe it when I see it.”
This thought seems harmless enough.
Maybe you agree and it makes sense to you.
But it’s one of the most TOXIC things a parent can think.
“I’ll believe when I see it” really means….
You think it will not happen.
Here is the thing, if you want your child to potty train…
If you’re desperate to get them communicating….
If you’d give your right arm for them to never bang their head again…
You have to be in the identity of someone who IS WHAT THEY BELIEVE.
When I was a child I was bullied mercilessly at school everyday up until middle school.
I remember every day wishing someone was going to come step in and save me.
I’d cry myself to sleep every night wondering why people would allow this to continue and what it would be like to meet that person that would finally say “STOP”.
Then one day I was in the middle of another bullying session, and those same thoughts I had been thinking for years filled my brain.
The thoughts of wishing for this “Superhero” or this “Miracle Person” to just come in and stop it.
and then I had a new thought…
“No one is coming, it has to be me”
For the first time ever I stood up to this bully.
He never fucked with me again.
In fact no one ever did from that point forward.
I spent from Middle School till the age of 35, when I had Julianna, in belief that I was my own savior. I believe I was this Master Problem Solver that could solve for anything.
So when Autism came to us, at first I was like you. I thought her life was over. I thought mine was too….
I couldn’t stay there long. I spent the majority of my life being my own savior, identifying as a Master Problem Solver that even though I knew shit about Autism, I knew I was going to do whatever it takes to solve for this.
You can’t believe it when you see it, that’s the life you are living now, waiting for something or someone to save you.
It has to be you.
You have to be the person who SOLVES for anything.
Only then can you get what you desperately want for your child.
P.S. If you are struggling in “believe it when I see it” and feel stuck I want to help you. Book a call to learn more about my group coaching program and let’s see if it makes sense to work together.
Anne joined my program in early March. Convinced her daughter Audrey would be in pull-ups forever. By April 4th, Audrey was FULLY POTTY TRAINED and